Your Ego Changed the Numbers First
The third candidate was qualified.
The economics worked. The team had been asking for somebody senior on that side for a year. The company had outgrown the way it was selling.
The owner still said no.
The first candidate lacked industry experience. The second was not the right culture fit. The third wanted too much authority.
Each objection was reasonable on its own. Together they described a decision that had already been made.
He did not want to hire somebody capable of rebuilding how the company sells, because doing that meant admitting the approach he built the company on could not carry its next stage.
That admission was never on the interview scorecard. It still decided the outcome.
Your ego rarely announces itself as ego. It arrives disguised as judgment.
What ego means here
Ego in this context is the instinct to protect the version of yourself that built the company. Arrogance is a different thing, easier to spot, and rarely the expensive one.
The expensive version is an owner who has been right for fifteen years and has built a company shaped entirely around the things he is right about.
Identity creates the conclusion. Experience finds the evidence. Business language makes it defensible.
That sequence runs in under a second, and it never tells you which step came first.
Five explanations, and what each one protects
The reasons owners give for waiting are a short list. Nearly everybody uses the same five.
Timing.
Not the right year. Market is soft. Let us get through the quarter. Timing protects the belief that you would have moved under different conditions, which turns the delay into something that happened to you.
Cost.
We cannot carry that number yet. This is the most defensible of the five, because it is arithmetic and arithmetic ends conversations. It also spares you from having to say out loud what the current arrangement costs.
Culture fit.
The most flexible of the five. It needs no evidence and cannot be argued with. In a company built by one person it usually means the candidate would not defer to you the way the room already does.
Readiness.
The team is not ready for that. Sometimes true. More often it protects the sequence you prefer, where the team gets ready by watching you, and the person who would have changed the sequence never arrives.
Standards.
Nobody good enough has come along. The most flattering of the five, because it sounds like rigor.
Three candidates in a year and none of them cleared the bar is a statement about the bar.
Where it shows up in the valuation
The hire you did not make. The authority you did not hand over. The person you kept two years past the point everybody else could see it. The market you did not enter, because entering it meant admitting the last three years pointed the wrong way.
None of that appears on the P&L. All of it appears in the valuation, and a buyer will find it faster than you will.
Sometimes you are protecting a loyal employee. Sometimes you are protecting what keeping that employee lets you believe about yourself.
The identity tax test
Take the decision you have deferred longest and write four lines.
The decision I keep putting off.
The business reason I give for waiting.
What making it would force me to admit.
What the waiting has already cost. A number if you have one, a name if you do not.
You will not find this by thinking harder about yourself, because the thing doing the thinking is the thing being tested. Line three is where it surfaces, and it is usually a sentence you have never said out loud. Most people write it, look at it, and turn the paper over.
This week
Write the four lines on the decision you have deferred longest.
Ask the person who has worked with you longest what they think you protect. Do not explain and do not correct them.
Put a date on the decision. A decision date, not a review date.
Owners arrive here by being right for a long time, which is a far harder habit to break than arrogance ever was. Being right built the company. It also built the shape of it.
Which of the five most often hides a decision an owner does not want to make: timing, cost, culture, readiness, or standards?
This is the layer underneath everything in my new book. Win or Win, September 8. Follow me here for the rest of it.
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